The Good News
Nicholas Christakis and James Fowler are two social scientist who have examined a large body of work called the Framingham data. They have found some amazing facts. They found that good behaviors — like quitting smoking or staying slender or being happy — pass from friend to friend almost in the same way that the flu does. Your health, happiness and even your lifestyle are all linked to your friends and people whom you mix with. If the people you associate have positive attitudes, have healthy lifestyles and are happy, this will tend to rub off on you. You, too, will have positive attitudes, a healthy lifestyles and be happy.
The Bad News
And the same was true of behaviours that you may not want— groups of friends appeared to “infect” each other with being overweight, unhappiness and smoking.
How Can I Be Healthy, Happy And Positive?
This research is proving that what you achieve in your life, how healthy you are and how happy you feel is strongly linked to the type of people that you mix with. I believe in keeping things very, very simple. Then any message that I give is easy to understand. So here is a simple way to lift your life up to a higher level. So here is how to use these findings.
The Simple Way
Think about all the friends and associates that you mix with. Think about the affects that each of them has on you. Start to spend more time with the ones that have a positive influence on you. Start to spend less time with the people who have a negative influence on you. Keep making steady progress in both areas.
I have set out this very simple plan. BUT it can be very hard to follow.
The Secret
Do a little but do it a lot of times. A very important presupposition of The Happy People is that a SMALL change can make a BIG difference. DO NOT try to make big changes in your life overnight. Make small but steady changes and be determined.
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More soon,
Love, Peace and Hasppiness.
Tom
Friday 1 April 2011
Good FriendS Make You Feel Happy! Part1
A Good Friend Makes You Feel Happy!
But they must be good friends If you are rejected or have your feelings hurt by your friends it is hurts you just as much as if they had hit you. Emotional hurt is the same as physical hurt. They both effect the same areas of the brain. The same parts of the cortex and the dorsal posterior insula are kicked into action by injury to your body or injury to your feelings. And one can be as bad as the other.
What should you do? Be careful whom you make friends with. Friends are very important to your mental and emotional health. You should have as many of them as you can ger. Of the right type! Studies at the University of Michigan, U.S.A show that the wrong type of friends can cause you a lot of emotional damage. If you find that you feel depressed or upset too often by the people whom you mix with, then get rid of them. Get different ones. Ones that support you and make you feel good. Start off with the worse one first.
Doing this will not only give you better relationships, it will also give you a strong feeling of having more control over your own life.
More in depth info on how your relationships effect your mental health, physical health and happiness in Part 2. You will also get lots of good help if you follow this blog. Just click button on the right.
More soon, Love, Peace and Happiness,
Tom
But they must be good friends If you are rejected or have your feelings hurt by your friends it is hurts you just as much as if they had hit you. Emotional hurt is the same as physical hurt. They both effect the same areas of the brain. The same parts of the cortex and the dorsal posterior insula are kicked into action by injury to your body or injury to your feelings. And one can be as bad as the other.
What should you do? Be careful whom you make friends with. Friends are very important to your mental and emotional health. You should have as many of them as you can ger. Of the right type! Studies at the University of Michigan, U.S.A show that the wrong type of friends can cause you a lot of emotional damage. If you find that you feel depressed or upset too often by the people whom you mix with, then get rid of them. Get different ones. Ones that support you and make you feel good. Start off with the worse one first.
Doing this will not only give you better relationships, it will also give you a strong feeling of having more control over your own life.
More in depth info on how your relationships effect your mental health, physical health and happiness in Part 2. You will also get lots of good help if you follow this blog. Just click button on the right.
More soon, Love, Peace and Happiness,
Tom
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